This past year has made me feel like women are actually being represented for the first time ever in political office, in businesses, and in life in general.
However, it’s not enough. We have been through a lot. We have been trying to force a new perspective and it’s working but it’s not over and I am sick and tired of people telling me that women are just “crabby” and that they are equal and just don’t want to accept it.
The truth is, women are still blamed when we are sexually assaulted. We are told that we should have acted different, that we shouldn’t have been as nice to the guy or we are told that we shouldn’t have dressed like a hooker.
In school, we are told that we can not show our bra strap, or that we can have our shoulders seen because if they see our shoulders than boys will think of our boobs.
We can not distract young men from their learning but that 40+ minutes that we spend in the office of our school while we wait for our parents to answer the phone call and finally bring us clothes does not matter. As long as the boys get to pay attention, it does not matter that the girl will likely miss an entire class just so she can be less distracting.
When we start dating, we are told the horror stories in hush whispers. How a girl has wasted her life away because she has a child and how she is whore because she had sex with the guy that she had been dating. It doesn’t matter that she got pregnant after the first time she ever had sex, or the fact that the condom broke. It just matters that she had sex.
We are told that we are selfish if we choose to abort a child that we can not take care of. We indeed did do the acts that lead us to be pregnant and perhaps that is our fault, but if boys can walk away from taking care of a child without retribution then why are girls looked down upon?
If we do not get pregnant in high school, then it is time to look at universities. In which when we are told to start looking at schools, we are warned to look at the stats. How many people have been sexually assaulted in the past year? How many people have filed a rape report? How many people have actually been apprehended for those acts?
We are taught to be scared in our own shoes. To watch our backs and to be careful about the people that we talk to because it is more likely for the person that sexually assaults us to be somebody that we know. Instead of trying to fix these issues, instead of trying to make us safer, we are taught to be scared and to be watchful and if, God forbid, anything happens to us. It was probably our fault.
And yes, these issues have been solving themselves. We have been seeing changes with the #metoo movement but that does not change the fact that when women are sexually assaulted, so many of them do not say a word because they are scared that they will be blamed for the abuse. That they will be told that they deserved it, that they will be told that everything is their fault.
There are people who stay silent, who go through these things and never have the guts to say anything because it is the girl’s fault that these things happened and so they stay silent.
It is not their fault that they stayed silent.
Their clothing does not matter.
What they said to the guy does not matter.
What matters is the fact that the girl did not want this to happen, and that regardless of how loudly she screamed or how hard she fought, she was forced to go through with it and then was too scared to say anything because they did not want to be looked down upon.
When these things happen, instead of looking at the guy. The girl’s character is questioned. Was she likely to lie about these things? Was she someone who over exaggerates or does she tend to dress like a slut? Does she flirt with a lot of guys?
A girl should not have to deal with this scrutiny and while yes, there are girls who have lied about this exact situation, that does not make every girl a liar. It does not mean that every girl who admits to having been raped or sexually assaulted was over- exaggerating or “misinterpreting the situation.”
The #MeToo Movement has been beneficial for people to realize the severity of the situation. It has allowed men and priviledged woman alike to realize the issues that so many people face.
This #MeToo moment is not some complaint from a girl on her period but rather the complaint of a girl who was 10 years old and told that her boobs need to grow in order for her to find a girl, who when she was 13 years old was wolf- whistled for the first time, and when she was a freshman in high school, some senior tried to slap her ass and it was because her jeans were so tight that she deserved it.
It’s not some complaint from a girl on her period, but a complaint from a woman who has had a life time of experiences where she was looked down upon, and sexually demoralized for simply being a woman.
The #MeToo Movement is the beginning but not the end!
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