Our Relationship Q&A

Do you guys remember the first time you saw each other?

 

Me:

I don’t, unfortunately. I knew of his existence before we officially met because he was my brother’s best friend but I don’t remember the first time I actually saw him.

 


Him:

It was a day that me and Andrew were going to hang out at Josh’s. Drew had just seen his sister, I marveled that he had one. He pointed her out wearing that red dress which is how I noticed you. I replied that you looked nothing alike.

 

Do you remember the first time you guys met? Where was it?

 

Me:

This is actually kind of a funny story, which I should preface by explaining that he is my brother’s best friend. So, basically this was one of the first times that he had ever come over to my house and he was coming back to the bathroom and my bedroom and my brother’s bedroom were right beside each other and he came into my bedroom, got all flustered and apologized and then immediately closed the door and ran back to my brother’s bedroom. I wasn’t even effected by this because I had gotten so used to it but it’s a funny story now that we are together.

 


Him:

Official meeting is hard. The first time we ran into each other was when I continued the tradition of walking into her room on accident. The first time we really spoke however, that I can remember was me walking into the house with Andrew and she offered me Galaxy ice cream. She didn’t have blue so she used orange instead. It tasted like cheese cake.

 

How long were you guys just friends?

 

Me:

We met when I was 15 years old (2015), and we weren’t even friends until I was about 17 years old. It all started after I was becoming friends with that little group and I hugged one of our friends, and he made a joke about the fact that I didn’t hug him so I did and we hugged every time we saw each other after that and slowly became friends. However, we became really close in November, 2017 and got together on May 28th, 2018.

 


Him:

Officially about a year. Although I counted her as a friend since the day she let on that she had read Magnus Chase.

 

How do you think being friends first has affected your relationship?

 

Me:

I feel like when we both really acknowledged that we liked each other, it took away the requirement to get to know each other. We had been really good friends for the past 6-7 months and had known each other for years so we knew a lot about each other and I think the fact that we became friends first was definitely a good thing.

 


Him:

It helped us skip the awkward getting-to-know-you phase. We were able to progress our relationship further in a lesser amount of time.

 

How long did you guys have feelings for each other before you got together?

 

Me:

It should be noted first and foremost that he was in a relationship for a good amount of our friendship but I started having feelings for him in about January, 2018. I never told him, I never acted on the feelings or anything like that. I actually spent a good amount of time avoiding the fact that I liked him, and I even tried to move on once but it just never worked out.

 


Him:

Straight friend zone until about a week before we got together. She was there for me and I began to see that she wasn’t just crushing.

 

Complete the Sentence: “My boyfriend/ girlfriend is ____.”

 

Me:

My boyfriend is: present. He has been there for me through so long, even back when we were just friends. He helps me through my anxiety and comforts me when I’m not feeling well. I feel so comfortable with him and I can talk to him about everything. I am so lucky that I got to fall in love with my best friend.

 


Him:

My girlfriend is: Ardent.

(Ardent means enthusiastic or passionate.)

 

What is your favorite thing about each other?

 

Me:

My favorite thing about him is how much he cares. I love how fast he is to support his friends, how fast he is to protect them and care for him.

 


Him:

 

Her genuine nature. If she loves or hates something, they know it.

 

What is your least favorite thing about each other?

 

Me:

My least favorite thing about him is how self- deprecating he is. He doesn’t realize how absolutely amazing he is and just sees the absolute worst in himself. I wish he could see the version of him that I see.

 


Him:

How quickly she jumps to a conclusion. She usually thinks the worst possible thing and reacts accordingly. It requires a lot of conversation and explanation but I wouldn’t change it save to put your mind at ease.

 

Do you guys share any hobbies?

 

Me:

He actually does write a bit, he’s a fantasy writer and has written fanfiction in the past but I think that’s about it. He’s also a big reader!

 


Him:

Reading. And writing (to a lesser extent on my behalf as you are MUCH more prolific.)

 

Who is the dominant one in the relationship?

 

Me:

Him, I would say.

 


Him:

Can’t say. We’re kind of autonomous. Neither seems to take the lead.

 

What is the story behind how you guys got together? When was your first kiss?

 

Me:

So, basically, we were hanging out with a group of our friends and alcohol was involved. We were in each other’s arms and then all of a sudden, he was looking at me and he kissed me. He ran away to the bathroom after that and we talked about what it meant for our relationship and we got together.

 


Him: 

Not a very romantic one. I’d just ended a very long relationship and with the help of my friend’s comfort and a bottle of tequila, I decided to go with my feelings.

 

He had just gotten out of a relationship. Is he 100% sure you’re not a rebound or whatever?

 

Him:

I’d been done with the relationship for a long time before it ended. It had gotten to a point where I was hurting myself more by staying. It was a bit quick, and perhaps in-advisably so. But rebound holds the stigma of being ingenuine and it’s not that. Sometimes I think it was a bit classless for how quick it was, but it wasn’t a rebound.

 


Me:

I wanted you to see his response to this question first. I’m not going to lie that it hasn’t been a concern of mine in the past. However, I can assure you that he is an absolutely amazing guy who would never do such a thing. There were a lot of issues in that relationship (that I will never, ever discuss) and while we don’t have the best timing in our relationship. I would never, ever change that. I completely trust him in his words and I hope you guys keep an open mind about him because he’s not going away any time soon.

 

What was your first road trip? Where to? How long? Why?

 

Me:

Our first road trip was about a week after we got together. We were both invited to a mutual friend of our’s wedding. I had to be there a day early as I was a bridesmaid and I invited him to come along with me so I wasn’t rooming alone at the hotel (because I’m a chicken) and this was all planned after we got together. It was for 2 days, the day before the wedding and then we left right after it. The wedding was in Roanoke and we stayed in a really colorful hotel, one of the Hilton’s where my mom works!

 


Him:

The wedding. Only about two hours to Roanoke for two days.

 

When did you guys first say “I love you” to each other? Did you hold back or did you say it the moment you began to feel it?

 

Me:

It was actually during the road trip. Which might seem super soon but we had known each other for years beforehand and it just felt right. We kept making references that we felt a lot for each other and he made it clear that he wanted to say it during a time where he was sure I believed him until finally, he just said it and I said it back.

 

Though, interestingly enough. I had told him that I loved him as a friend beforehand. I had written a secret decoding message where I told him how much he meant to me and how special he was and I said, “I love you (nlt).”

 


Him:

I held off for a full 24 hours.

(He means after he felt it)

 

What was your first date?

 

Me:

We went to Geeksboro (the coffee shop in Greensboro) and played the 36 Questions to Fall in Love and just got to know each other on a romantic basis. We spent so many hours just talking and then we came over to my house and played video games and just talked a bunch.

 


Him:

Geeksboro. It was a rather peaceful affair of getting the finer details about each other.

 

What is your favorite memory of being together?

 

Me:

My favorite memory of him was probably way before we were even dating. All of our friends had decided to go watch a movie and we decided not to go with them (for a couple of reasons). We spent the entire time talking about ghost encounters,  past friendships, and we watched ghost videos on YouTube before we decided to watch Moana on Netflix.

 


Him:

Dancing at the wedding.

 

How would you describe your relationship?

 

Me:

Since we were friends for so long, I think it’s very clear in our relationship. We can talk about anything and we know each other super well so we’re always showing each other stuff that we like on Facebook or whatever else. Alternatively, we are also super gooey and romantic and can be kind of cringy in that way.

 


Him:

Two similar and awkward young people with a strong connection doing their best to forget the past, prepare the future, and live the present as happily as they can for themselves and their partner.

 

What do you guys typically do together?

 

Me:

We typically play Skyrim on his PS3 that he keeps at my house, we watch horror movies, we talk a lot, and some other things…

 


Him:

Talk, watch stuff, make out.

 

What does he think of Apple? What does Apple think of him?

 

Me:

He absolutely adores Apple! I think I’ve spoiled him to the idea of having a ferret. My mom considers him to be Apple’s father and Apple absolutely adores playing with him.

 


Him:

I love the little guy and think he’s adorable. And I don’t know, can’t speak ferret.

 

Are you guys going to be doing a LDR (Long Distance Relationship) while you’re in college? How do you plan on handling that? 

 

Me:

We do plan on doing a LDR while I’m at college. I will be going to University in Charlotte while he will be near Greensboro, which is about an hour and a half drive. Because of this, we will be able to see each other quite a bit (though it will be problematic while I can’t have my car) and he does plan on coming over and I plan on coming home a lot. Otherwise, we plan on using the video chat on Messenger and texting a lot.

 


Him:

Same way I handle everything. A day at a time. I trust her fully and while I’ll probably get worried about her safety sometimes, I know she’ll be okay. And I’m going she’s going to be going out there and making her life better. I can’t wait wait to see the person she grows in to. And it’s not like it’s anywhere to forever. We’re going to keep in touch.

 


 

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Check out my novels!

The White Butterfly on Amazon!

The Girl in the Cage on Amazon!

 

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Hello, my name is Sabrina Ingram. I am the author of The White Butterfly and The Girl in the Cage. You can find me on my website (www.sheswritingmore.com) where I talk about writing, books, personal things, and much more!

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