My Message to Freshman

 

As a senior in high school, I have a lot of experience. I know what it’s like to be a freshman and I know what my choices in freshman year has caused to happen up until now.

 

I realize that my choices as a freshman greatly impacted my entire high school career and to this day, I can’t decide whether it was a good thing or a bad thing but I do have some advice for you so this is for you. Read it and do with it as you please but do read it. Because if it helps even one of you, I’m glad.

 

As an upcoming freshman, I went to a brand new school in my area where I only knew a handful of people and when that school year started, I remember vividly how everyone sat with their respected schools. If you came from one middle school, you sat here. If you came from another one, you sat there.

 

It might take a while for this to change but there is an entire sea of new students and unfortunately, it will change and I was actually the first from my table to walk away. I met a boy pretty early on in Freshman year and as a kid who was boy obsessed but knew nothing about relationships, it was a really stupid move on my part. Obviously, when that relationship started, I moved to his table which caused a chain reaction.

 

Looking back to those first few weeks, my first piece of advice to you is to be very careful. Don’t just date the first guy that you meet simply because he’s cute. Be nice and be his friend but wait. Because if you end up regretting your decision, you will forever regret the moves following this.

 

During that time that I sat with that particular table, I met some of the best and funniest people that I have ever met, to this day and they are the biggest reasons that I think fondly of my Freshman year. I was one of two girls at the table but those guys were hilarious but unfortunately, when the relationship failed, I was to leave the table…

 

Which resulted in my next piece of advice, unfortunately that wasn’t my cleanest break up that I have ever had and of course, somebody followed me when I left. Well, two people actually. The other girl and one of the boys.

 

My second piece of advice is this, don’t ever date a guy from your ex’s friend group because a multitude of things happen. You get an insanely bad reputation, even though you didn’t mean for literally any of it to happen.

 

Next, the guy you started dating will end up choosing sides which will cause either bad blood between your ex and him or you end up with a broken heart. I, stupidly, made that mistake not once but twice.

 

Don’t do it. Nothing ever ends well.

 

This part is possibly the trickiest part to give you advice on and I have to tread this topic very lightly for many reasons but choose your friends wisely. Because while you might not realize it, those choices do greatly affect you.

 

Based off your friends, people will forever judge you and think of you a certain way even though none of it may be true. Friends are an important thing and it is a very good thing to make friends but be careful about it.

 

Befriend people but if they are bad for you, walk away and be comfortable enough to walk away because down the line, you’ll regret it.

 

Finally, my last piece of advice is that you join clubs. Find something that you’re interested in and join it, whether it be Sports, Gamers Club, Yearbook, History, or Spanish Club. Just join something because you will find amazing people that could be your best friends long after you’ve graduated.

 

I am not saying that just because you join one of these things that your high school experience will be the best, I will be the first to attest that I am apart of a lot of clubs and my high school experience has been fairly terrible so far. But you will make friends, you will have something that you love while you’re dealing with everything, and the memories that you make are not ones that you will ever forget.

 

I know that you’re terrified about what will happen, whether you’re worried about your friends or your classes, it is perfectly natural. We have all been there and we all know what it is like, including the people surrounding you.

 

So, have fun and be nice. You never know what will happen.

 

 

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17 Things I Love

 

Hey guys! So I wrote this a little bit in advance but today is December 7th, 2016 meaning that I have been alive for 17 years! So in honor of this, I wanted to tell about 17 things that I love. These things rang from television shows, book series, hobbies, foods, and absolutely whatever else that I can think of.

This list is in no particular order.

 

  1.  Writing!

I have been obsessed with writing for as long as I can remember! With my dyslexia, you would think it started after but that is actually not the case. I have always really liked the idea of storytelling and when I was struggling through dyslexia and all of that, I have a vivid memory of writing this story about two girls from very different worlds finding out they are sisters. Like a celebrity and a normal person, a princess and a commoner. I have no idea what I was wanting to do with the story but I had written out they met more than 30 times and I was constantly drawing pictures for this story (even though I sucked at drawing!)

However truly writing didn’t come to me until much later and my love for writing and my interest in the pursuit of writing was a long process. However, I began writing poetry in the fourth grade (so like 2009-2010) when we had this class in the library about what poetry was and what haiku’s were and so much more and I just fell in love.

I dedicate my love for poetry to Mrs. Wilson who worked in the library at my middle school.

During the summer of going into 6th grade, I was taken into the world of fan fiction (which will be delved into deeper in another spot!) and I began to read it obsessively on this website that was called Quizazz but later changed to Quotev.

On this website, I wrote two stories that were original. My story about Dyslexia (published on February 3rd, 2014) and another story about a train that is no longer published. During this time, beyond these stories, I also obsessively wrote my own fanfiction that would later be published on Wattpad (via thinking that Quotev was officially too childish and I had ran out of fan fiction!)

Many, many, many attempted stories later would result in the Social Butterfly which is still my pride and joy for the fan fiction part of my life however I ultimately gave it up when I began pursuing The White Butterfly which I began writing in 2015 and on Christmas Eve of that same year,  I finished it.

Before The Social Butterfly, however, I knew that I wanted to be a writer and my biggest problem was honestly just getting my story out there and being motivated enough to write it.

In the seventh grade ( so like 2012-2013), I met two people. A girl that I called Rainbow and who would become my favorite teacher of all time, Mrs. Thompson.

These two encouraged me in ways that I never believed and to this day, I thank them for thinking of writing as a profession rather than just an interest. They also convinced me to submit my first poem into a poetry contest at my local library’s poetry contest (that I lost but I still loved the experience and continued!)

2. Harry Potter

Literally if you ask anybody that I know personally, they will tell you that I have an obsession with this series. Which is one hundred percent true because while I hate the character with a passion, I love the world and other characters. I love that there is so much to debate about the series and it isn’t even the magical portion of this series that I love, what I love is that she put so much thought into this series that I could write history books about these various topics that have nothing to do with stupid Harry James Potter.

I had always kinda loved Harry Potter, as a child my brother was never home a lot and he was really important to me as a kid and I began to love the series because I associated him with the series.

However, it was not until I got hurt (I don’t remember how) and I had a lightning bolt cut on my forehead, similar to the character itself which caused me to research the series more which introduced me to Harry Potter fan fiction.

Of course, my interest in the series has changed a lot varying from Harry himself to Draco Malfoy (marry me?) to the teachers to the Marauder Era, light versus dark, the parallels to the real world and the series, and so much more.

3. Coffee

Okay so ever since I was little, coffee was like heaven from above. My mom would only let me have one cup of coffee every couple of months in these super tiny tea cup with teddy bears on them.

As I grew older and my mom stopped caring how much coffee I have had, the magical powers that I associated with a kid continued.

4. Gilmore Girls.

This is a show that I have watched like 6 times, I even stayed until 3 a’clock in the morning (stupid Eastern time) in the attempt to watch A Year in the Life which I did manage to do (finishing at almost 11 a’clock!)

But beyond my obsessive habits with this show, I have become entranced with the mother- daughter relationships between Lorelai and Emily as well as Lorelai and Rory.

I have had my opinions of Paris Geller and I have rooted for Sookie and Jackson, I have screamed at Luke Danes for being an ass, and I have even created an all out shipping war. Team Logan, by the way though I am partial to Jess. Not Dean though, Dean sucks.

5. My Aunt’s Chocolate Chip Cookies.

No matter how many times I have attempted to recreate these little pieces of love that are my Aunt’s chocolate chip cookies, I have failed epically. I am convinced that my Aunt has some sort of magical amazing powers that ensures that I must get down on my knees to beg for another one of the amazing cookies.

6. Corn Beef and Cabbage.

This has been a food that my mom has made on rare occasions from the day I was born. Unfortunately, the meal is not exactly cheap and more so, half my family hated the food until the divorce.

Regardless, this is an amazing food that I would kill somebody for (Not really..)

7. Disney / Pixar Movies.

These movies have always reminded me of childhood, of a time where I dreamed of a one true love and of a marriage so sweet and so pure. I dreamed of the life of Ariel as a child, I grew up to admire Belle for her individuality and love for books, and gradually became invested in the mechanics of the series.

The Pixar Theory by Jon Negroni that introduced me to my favorite YouTuber, SuperCarlinBrothers, where we analyzed the movies way too much to find connections and I have fallen in love with the movies all over again.

8. Wifi.

Oh wow, a teenager who loves wifi, how original.

Yes, I am seventeen years old and I love wifi so sue me! I love being able to talk to my friends at the drop of a hat, I love having access to the world at the tip of my fingers. I am oh so sorry that I am enjoying the world that is around me.

This is not something to judge teenagers for enjoying as I am ensure that when you were a teenager, you loved something that the adults hated. It’s how the world works, something new comes out that we love and those who lived in a world before it tend to hate it.

So yes, I love wifi.

9. Animals.

As a child, I grew up with this dog. I got her when I was three years old and I named her Fluffy though my mom claims that she told me that, at least apparently I said that but unless we live in the world, Life of Pets, I highly doubt that.

As a child, she was my favorite person in the world. She walked with me when we walked around the neighborhood, she stayed the night with me when I was scared of the dark, she listened to me rant about friend drama, and she even protected me when she didn’t like somebody.

She was my best friend and because of her, I had a love for animals that never really stopped. Unfortunately, she passed away over the summer.

As time went on, I found a love for sharks where I earned the nickname Sharky because I knew a lot of weird facts about them (which never really went away with some of my middle school friends) and it continued on even further to Llamas and Cows and Goats, Cats, and Fish.

Currently I have 8 fish : Zaniello, Casiopa, Lyra, Ursa, Oblegine, Denubla, Nunki, Altair.

2 Snails : Leafy and Sheldon.

I love them all deeply. ❤

10. Friends.

Friends have always been an important factor in my life and it is my friends who I believe have slowly molded me into who I am today. They supported me in my choices, relationships, and so much more that they all became so very important to me.

I even dedicated my last book, The White Butterfly, to my best friend but we are currently struggling but that doesn’t mean how much she meant to me has changed and I will forever appreciate her for that books existence because I wouldn’t have finished it without her.

11. Family.

Family has always been a weird topic for me because my family is weird but for this one, my family includes the people that have stuck with me through thick and thin because I don’t believe blood is what creates family and I definitely don’t think they are family just because they are blood.

Family, in my opinion, is someone who supports you in what you do and loves you for who you are regardless of your choices and opinions and life. That family, that is the family I love and I am so lucky that I have them in my life.

12. Blankets.

As much as I love the cold, blankets are amazing. The reason behind liking the cold is because you can always get warm by putting on thicker clothes and blankets but with being hot, your only option is getting naked and that isn’t exactly sociably acceptable and plus, it probably wouldn’t work anyways.

But anyways, back to blankets, they ensure warmth and security. They are soft and they are amazing and I just really love blankets.

13. The Smell of Cherries.

There is this hand soap and hand sanitizer at Bath and Body Works with the smell of Black Cherry Merlot which honestly just smells like cherries and it is amazing.

This has been a recent interest but literally anything cherry like has been absolutely amazing for me.

14. Music.

As a teenager, I have used music as getting people to not talk to me, I have jammed out to Insane Clown Posse, Theory of a Deadman, Blink-182, and even Smashing Pumpkins. I have hummed the music of Queen, Iron and Wine, and the Beatles. I have sang at the top of my lungs to Bob Marley, Radiohead, Death Cab for Cutie, and Elvis Presley.

I have listened to music during sadness and anger as well as love and happiness.

15. Books.

I have over 300 books.

Clearly, I have a thing for books. They make me feel like it is a getaway from everything going on and it is amazing. I love living from another person’s life.

16. Peppermint.

When I was in the seventh grade, I was absolutely and one hundred percent obsessed with peppermint, I had like 60 peppermints that year and everyone got them for me on my birthday and on Christmas.

Of course, I eventually got weaned off the peppermint, apparently 60 of them does that to you. But I have always remembered that year, that so many people remembered and noticed how much I love peppermint and they got it for me.

Peppermint means more than just the food or the amazing smell, it reminds me of caring and acknowledgment of me, myself, and I. That so many people noticed and cared.

17. Supporters / Fans

You guys, you guys are something that I absolutely love.

You guys have supported me, you have appreciated my work and I love you guys for it, thank you so much.

10 Things to Do After a Break Up

If you’re going through a break up, you’re probably lost. A mixture between wanting to cry or punch everything in sight and sometimes wanting to do all of the above at the exact same time.

 

There’s a lot of things that you’re probably angry or upset about but this post isn’t about dwelling on all of that.

 

So here are 10 things to do after a break up besides THINKING about the break up.

 

1.Become closer to your friends. With being in a relationship, you’ve probably been taking yourself away from your friends but this time is absolutely the time to try and fix that. You need your friends more than ever right about now, to distract you from your feelings or even to vent. This break up has caused me to become so much closer to my friends.

 

 I find myself appreciating my friends more than ever right now.

 

2. Do something on your bucket list! If you have a bucket list, which you probably do, this is the perfect time to finish something on it. So take out your bucket list, figure out what you want to do and do it!

 

Break ups are just the end of a chapter, not the end of your life.

 

3. Delete him from everything. I know, this is hard and scary but trust me, it helps. You do not need to be finding yourself stalking his tweets on twitter or his new pictures on Facebook or see his story on Snapchat. It just isn’t what you need in your life and it WILL hurt you more to see his happy smile or anything else.

 

DELETE HIM, YOU DON’T NEED THAT.

 

4. Try out a new look. This is the time to self indulge and not be criticized so cut your hair, wear something crazy, or just plain dress down. Sometimes a little mascara helps a lot for your self esteem.

 

TRUST ME, IT’S TIME.

 

5. Post a new profile picture. If you’re anything like me, your profile picture was probably you and your ex so now it is time to change your profile picture! Make sure it’s sexy and hot!

 

Prove that you can be happy without him.

 

6. Get your flirt on. I mean, yeah, you just got out of a relationship but I mean, you’re finally free! So get dressed up, put on some mascara, and get your flirt on. Perfect chance to flutter your eyes and prove to your ex that you don’t need him and to get your self esteem up.

 

DO NOT FEEL GUILTY, YOU GUYS ARE OVER!

 

7. Focus on your schoolwork. Schoolwork is going to come up soon and maybe this is the time to stop procrastinating and to just study. You are an independent woman and so prove that and get your grades up (or even focus on your career!)

 

YOU CAN MAKE IT WITHOUT HIM.

 

8. Eat ice cream or some other dessert. You are single, girl and this is the magic recipe for a break up. It’s like a right of passage and you will not be judged. So self indulge, you don’t have to look good for anyone anymore.

 

ENJOY IT.

 

9. Create a Playlist. Man, it’s time to listen to music and smile. You used to have to listen out for his messages but no more so feel free to blast the music and scream the lyrics at the top of your lungs. If you don’t want to make a playlist yourself, listen to this one!

 

TURN IT UP AND SING IT LOUD.

 

10. Read a Book! You have been so busy hanging out with him, I doubt you’ve had time to read and if you’d like, you could read my book. It’s all about a girl getting over her break up and falling in love.

 

BECAUSE THERE IS LIFE AFTER HIM.

 

But most of all, just enjoy yourself.

 

We are the single sisters,

Sabrina Ingram.