#BlackFriday Shopping Haul!

I actually don’t remember the sales for about half of it and I will not be including the final cost for anything that I bought because I always go a little crazy when I’m shopping and I just don’t feel like admitting that I went absolutely insane.


For those of you who will likely share their concern that I went Black Friday shopping, I went with my mother and her fiance and we actually went to some pretty calm places. Mind you, there are plenty of other shops that we went to and didn’t ultimately end up buying anything (i.e. Michaels and Rue 21).


Hot Topic




Hot Topic always has some decent sales on Black Friday and this one was no exception. All of their t-shirts (except for Fashion Tees) were $10 and with Crimes of Grindelwald having just recently come out, of course I HAD to buy a Niffler t-shirt, do you know me at all? 




This shirt actually was on sale for $12 dollars due to it being a fashion tee, but I didn’t realize that this was considered to be a fashion tee at the time so when I was at check- out, I was lucky enough for them to let me buy this shirt for $10 dollars. 




Hot Topic also had a generalized sale of buy one, get one half off. But the thing that I got for half off was actually a Christmas present for my lovely, lovely roommate so I will not be advertising that gift on here (as Christmas has not come around yet).


But this is a holiday advent jewelry set, where it’s supposed to come with a bracelet and 12 charms in each one of these advents, where you open one a day every day before Christmas. Do you remember the chocolate versions? It’s the same concept! 


Bath and Body Works




For this sale, it was buy 3, get 3 free and I always go a little… crazy when I’m at Bath and Body Works and as you all know very well, I am a STRONG believer in Aromatherapy so I bought a lot of their collection of that.




Arometherapy’s Comfort, featuring scents like vanilla and patchoulli, shower steamers. The goal of this is to put it in your showers, right outside the steam/ water and let it melt slowly and it’s supposed to bring comfort. I fully believe in Aromatherapy, but I am a little nervous about shower steamers and was curious to see how it would work. 




Aromatherapy’s Sleep, with the new scent of Black Chamomile, pillow mist. I thought that a pillow mist was fitting for an aromatherapy meant for sleep which is why I bought it and admittedly, I’m really excited about the fact that they have a new option for their sleep aromatherapy as I hate the smell of lavender and it made me less likely to use it as I wanted to desperately avoid the scent. 




With my newfound single life, as my past relationship has officially dissolved, I decided to play around with Arometherapy’s Love, featuring scents of Rose and Vanilla, Body Scrub to see what would happen in the love department of my life.




Aromatherapy’s Stress Relief, featuring scents of Eucalyptus and Spearmint, Concentrated Room Spray. I haven’t been talking too much about my dorm life but recently, it has come to my attention that some of my residential hall neighbors have complained about the scent coming from my dorm, AKA Apple’s fault. Because of this, Madison helped me buy one of those room sprays that spray every 5 minutes and I bought a carpet de-odorizer but in case those things don’t work, I also bought this and I thought both my roommate and I could really use this to our advantage.




Aromatherapy’s Focus, featuring scents of Eucalyptus and Tea, nourishing Body Oil. I really feel that every college student needs this. It helps them focus on the task at hand, such as homework instead of getting distracted by their own mind. 




Aromatherapy’s Happiness, including scents like Bergamot and Mandarin, Body Wash and Foam Bath. Happiness has probably been my internal struggle for the longest time and this honestly does make me feel a little better. 




This one doesn’t have a picture to come along with it but I decided to look around at the vegan snack boxes since I had a little extra money and came across UrthBox. I only bought one of their vegan snack boxes, their large one with 25+ snacks but for Black Friday, if you bought anything on the store then you got an extra box so I will be having two snack boxes coming in soon enough and I was actually planning on showing you guys what is inside the boxes! While I wouldn’t typically reveal how much I bought, I’m actually really proud of this deal as I bought two large snack boxes for $39.99. The box typically costs 49.99 but I also got another $10 off using HONEY!




I had actually heard of vegan cuts before, as I had found a lot of videos on box openings and really, desperately wanted to try a box. I would have gone with Vegan Cuts for my snack box but the UrthBox was ultimately cheaper for more snacks today but I still got to buy their Vegan Chocolate Treasure Chest for $32 dollars and free shipping, compared to original cost of $76.15, not including shipping. I will also be doing a video regarding on the contents of this box as well! 


JC Penney’s


This is a lavender, white, and grey sweatshirt with some sort of down arrow design to the top of the sweatshirt. It was actually one of the first things I saw at JC Penney’s and I just had to have it. I can’t recall what it was on sale for, as you’ll notice within time but I’ve always loved some of JC Penney’s clothing even though it’s typically on the girlier side.




It probably doesn’t surprise anybody that you can find me in the boy’s section of many stores and JC Penney’s is no exception. As you can see on the tag, this shirt is typically $20 but on Black Friday, it was a mere $5 dollars. FOR A HARRY POTTER SHIRT NO LESS.



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Feeling Confident


There is this picture of me, I had just been dumped and instead of wallowing in my own self pity, I remember that I felt like I had something to prove. That relationship had been such a big part of my life that I wanted to prove to both myself and those around me that I could survive with him no longer being in my life. Despite how upset I was and how much I thought I loved him, I remember wanting to feel confident with myself.


So, my ex- best friend and I decided that we would dress up and go to the movies for nobody but ourselves so we both dressed up and I remember not knowing what I was gonna wear but wanting to look pretty so when I opened my closet, I took out the very dress that I wore in this picture.


That day proved to me that I could live without my ex- boyfriend, that I was still pretty even though I had “let myself go.” There was so much that I had to prove to others but more importantly, it was something that I had to prove to myself.


We didn’t go anywhere special besides to the movie theater so we could see Suicide Squad and to Walmart so her family could buy some groceries but that day had been one of the best days of my life. I felt beautiful and confident, I genuinely thought I looked sexy at the time.


I look back on that day and I can’t remember that girl, she was stuck in a moment directly after something dreadful and not only was she happy but she was happy and confident in herself. She knew she looked beautiful and she wasn’t worried about her weight or anything else about her.


I applaud the girl that I once was because I know that in many ways, I have changed and that I will never be the same girl that I once was but I also know that it’s not necessarily a bad thing and I hope that one day, I can grow to be the same confident girl who wanted to prove something after a break up.


Even though the dress was tight and short, something that I typically would never think to wear, I still love this picture. Not because I actually was genuinely gorgeous or anything but because I remember that day and how confident that I felt and I see this picture as a symbol of confidence.


Because of this, I wanted to share it with you because I know that there are a lot of people who struggle with this and I just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful and that you’ll figure out how to be confident and yes, you will have days of being confident and days of feeling absolutely terrible but those days of being “terrible” is not every day and is not true because you are beautiful.



Does True Love Exist?


As many of you know if you follow this blog, my mom is currently going through a divorce and recently she mentioned something to me, “I had Randy for my kids, I had Buddy for raising you, and my next guy will be for me,” which honestly got me thinking about true love.


Does true love exist? Because I know there are some people who married their high school romances and I have to wonder, how is this possible because when I look back at my romances, it fascinates me because I know that I have genuinely been in love with SOME of them but no part of me thinks now that we could ever have had a future.


Which I think is why what my mom said got me thinking so much about it, maybe it’s not that we have “one true love,” and that we only really fall in love with one person and have all of that nauseatingly gushy relationship stuff once but maybe we have the people we need during different parts of our life.


She met my biological father so she could have my older brother and myself, so that she could fulfill her wishes of being a mom early in life.
However, after an awkward divorce, it lead to no father for myself as my brother lived with him as he grew up. So, she met a boy while she was working which became her second husband and while I share no love or respect for the man, he did raise me which was what she needed at the time.


Now, I am a senior in high school (and about to graduate with both my Associates of Arts and High School Diploma) and raising me really isn’t a thing anymore. She had her kids, she had the “father figure,” so now it is time for her.


She all cared about them at some point, they were all vital to her life and they were all loves in her life. She disagrees with me on this one but I do think that we don’t have true loves, we have loves that we need during different times in our lives.


As for those lucky ducks who married one person and only had one love of their life, I want to talk to them. How did they do it? How did they get through their struggles? Do they really love each other the way that they used to?


I think my best answer comes with choice, there are some people who manage to meet this one person who they stay with forever. They adapt as you adapt and they become everything you need as time passes. Because, I think a lot of relationships fail because somebody adapts and grows while the other stays the same and they stop being what each other needed.


I’m not saying that being with one person for the rest of your life is impossible, I just think that it a minority and that those people are genuinely lucky. I could only hope to only marry one person and that I’m lucky enough to find somebody who grows with me.

Career or Family?


In the question of choosing between my family or my career, I would choose my career. Family should be able to realize that your career is crucial as the career is how you would support them and I could never choose them over that. They are my family so no matter how much work you put into your career, they are still obligated to love you.  I can understand one’s decision to choose family however it is not the decision I would make and I think this decision is something that should be mentioned in relationships so they are aware of where they stand. If one were to marry somebody without knowing that they would constantly be working or doing something involving their work, it is common for a break up to ensue due to the lack of understanding. In every future relationship I will be in, this choice is something I would make prevalent early in the relationship rather than later.

I believe that it is important to balance your career and family but in the end, I do believe that one’s career should exceed. One’s career is something that you go through twelve or more years of school and it seems illogical to choose your family over something that you have spent more than a decade of your life to reach. In any career, life is constantly changing and the working environment is constantly in motion and one should make sure that they keep up and in order to excel in your career, you should choose career over family.

My choice to choose my career is not over a lack of wanting a relationship but in my personal opinion, it is the most logical choice out of the two. I would hope to find myself able to balance the two but this would be the choice I would make if I were forced to. In addition, relationships have been declining and in a recent study, The State of Our Unions 2011, it has been recorded that only 60% of people are even happy in their relationship so why would I choose them over my career, something I love, which could very well fail anyways.

If one were to ask somebody if they would like to work more hours for more money or less hours for less money like the study at Cornell University, it is shown that many people would choose the same answer as me although unknowingly. While this was not in consideration of family or home life, it is implied in the answer and the fact that an average of them chose more work for more money proves that I am not the only person who would choose this. In the same study, they asked if they regretted choosing work over happiness and only 24% of them said “yes.” (Cornell.edu. Par. 6.)

Alex Blackie wrote a heart breaking article on The Guardian called ‘I couldn’t have it all’ – choosing between my career and my family. In this article, she talks about the fact that she had a family before she started her career and that at one point, her daughter said “Mummy, I don’t recognize you anymore.” (Par. 1) This is something that is heart breaking as she dreamed of being “the perfect mother” however this is not a dream that I have. I dream of making a good career for myself so I have a hard sympathizing with this concept. I wholeheartedly support her decision in stepping back from her career and being more involved with her family, however I wonder if it was really a wise decision. Clearly she was making it big in her career and while she was unhappy because of her family, she was proud of her achievement with her job and choosing to step back may have taken away her chance of doing well in her career.

While I perfectly understand the choice between family and career and choosing family, it is not something that I would do. The likely of the relationship salvaging no matter what along with my goals in life not paralleling with my family but my career, I would choose my career in a heartbeat.


Works Cited

“Facts and Figures.” For Your Marriage. Web. 28 July 2016.

“When Opting for Happiness or Income, Many Go for the Cash | Cornell Chronicle.” When

Opting for Happiness or Income, Many Go for the Cash | Cornell Chronicle. Web. 28 July 2016.

“‘I Couldn’t Have It All’ – Choosing between My Child and My Career.”The Guardian. Guardian

News and Media, 20 Apr. 2013. Web. 28 July 2016.

10 Quotes That I Live By

  1. “A writer is a writer not because she writers well and easily, because she has amazing talent, or because everything she does is golden. A writer is a writer because, even where is no hope, even when nothing you do shows signs of promise, you continue writing anyways.” – Junot Diaz.

    When it comes to writing, one is expected to be at the top notch of perfection. Whether it is that you are a fountain of ideas, a human dictionary, or simply the biggest grammar Nazi of the world. There is a vision that writers are perfect writers which is scary. This quote reminds me that I am okay, I am a writer because I have written through the hardest times of my life. I use my hardships and give it a breath into the public world. Writing is my lifeline and it always has been and this quote by Junot Diaz keeps me sane and reminds me that I do not have to be perfect.

  2. “It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” – William Shakespeare.

    I could never be a Christian. I know, I know. That sounds so bad but I really couldn’t ever be a Christian. Why? Because of this quote in itself. I could never live my life thinking that if I do nothing, everything my life is supposed to be happens. My life is not written in the stars, my life is not set in stone. My life is what I chose to let it be. This quote set me free from the hurdles that is trying to live my life thinking everything is going to happen if I just do nothing. It’s crazy talk, it’s delusional thinking, to be honest. This quote lets me live my life, the way I want to live it.

  3. “History is not a burden on the memory but an illumination of the soul.” – Lord Acton.

    I love history, I always have and I have always hated when somebody said, “Why should I care about history?” But history is so much more than that. History is not something that you have to remember, it’s the story of how the people walked before us. It is the story as to how we are who we are. It explains how our lives came to be run the way they are. History is how we are alive. History is the story that promises our future.

  4. :”If you want to fly, give up everything that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison.

    I’ve always seen this quote as a reminder. Something you have to remember in order to survive, in order to succeed. Many should notice that when they are struggling to reach their goals, there is something tying them down and in order to ensure to reach your goals, in order to reach them at all, we must give up everything that stops us. Even the things that we don’t realize are weighing us down, even the things that we love so so much. We must give up everything that stops in order to reach our goals.

  5. “When it rains, look for rainbows. When it’s dark, look for stars.” – Unknown.

    Life is hard, so hard and when you’re struggling, you must remember that there is always a time of safety, a time where everything will be okay and you must continue looking. When it is so sad that you can barely see, look for the colors and happiness that can take you out. When it’s so dark in your life that you can’t see your way out, look for the light. Look for anything that can give you even a glimmer of happiness. It is always going to be there, no matter what, no matter how, it will be there.

  6. “A villain is just a victim whose story hasn’t been told.” – Chris Colfer.

    This is actually something that I use in both my life and writing. Sometimes in the real world, remembering that I don’t know everything about the most evil person in my life, helps me understand. I don’t know their story and it allows me to be civil with them. As for writing, it’s a great reminder for the villain of the story.

  7. “Write with the Breathings of Your Heart.” – William Wordsworth.

    This quote actually means the most to me out of all of these. This was the first quote I used in a paper in my first high school class my freshman year. Somebody quoted this quote to me when I almost gave up writing, a psychologist told me this quote when trying to talk to me into writing about my “experiences” and it’s the quote that I plan on using for my first tattoo in December.

  8. “But first, coffee.” – Unknown.

    Coffee is my lifeline when I can’t have writing. Coffee is something that keeps me awake in the morning, something that genuinely makes me happy. I sometimes drink more Coffee than the Gilmore Girls!

  9. “People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in your favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures.” – Nicholas Sparks.

    This quote helps me in a lot of ways. Nicholas Sparks is like a God when it comes to creative writing, personally I think their should be a book on somebodies adventures of falling in love with writing featuring “the creative writing Gods.” Complete with Nicholas Sparks, J.K. Rowling, Bram Stoker, William Shakespeare, George R.R. Martin, Edgar Allan Poe, Arthur Conan Doyle, Lewis Carroll, Ayn Rand, and Sharon M. Draper. Just imagine it! #NewStoryIdea

  10. “It is a happiness to wonder; it is a happiness to dream.” – Edgar Allan Poe.

    I don’t know why but this quote makes me happy. Reminds me that dreaming is okay.